First of all, from a longterm perspective you want to develop an identity that circles around taking action and not achieving great things and getting tasty outcomes. I would say that the main reason for that is that the former is much more flexible and will serve you in all kinds of contexts in life, whereas focusing on great results is bound to a certain area. For example, if you focus on success with women and what you strive for is to hook up with a lot of girls, then you generally get your results but when you inevitably have to focus on other areas of your life, financial, health or sports for example, and you can not pay that much attention to getting your tasty outcomes(girls). This will probably cause you to go around with a feeling of lack. In comparison, if you develop an identity that circles around always taking action you will easily handle more areas of your life and you can freely come back to whatever area in which you like to develop yourself in.
However, you can have a “taking action ego” and when you eventually get your results that you deep down desire, you will most likely develop a “result based ego”. The thing is to keep inquiring yourself and change your focus to taking action instead of getting outcomes. Furthermore, to focus on taking action does not imply to totally let go of what you want and forget about outcomes. It comes down to having intent and strive for a result but at the same time not really caring if you get the outcome you want. Desire without attachment. To develop desire without attachment, I believe the key is to consistently change your focus to taking action while having a clear idea of what you want.
If you get too caught up in your results you will most likely higher your barrier for success. This is no good, because you will not be able to live up to the success-standard you have created for yourself. On the other hand, if the only thing that you really care about is taking action then that standard(to push yourself and perpetually take action) is something that will develop yourself and at the same time you will most likely achieve even more and better results then if you ran around and thought about outcomes all the time.
Keep reminding yourself of the fact that actions are both cooler and more effective to focus on than outcomes. And when I say focus on I ultimately mean what you perceive as being successful to yourself. So even if you fail you can still give yourself credit for trying because the power does not lie in the result. This is very liberating. Go see for yourself.