Monday, 27 December 2010

What does it mean to trust yourself?

Trust yourself. How many times have you heard that you should “trust yourself”? Growing up I thought that to trust myself was to to hold onto what I thought about the world to be the absolute truth, and if somebody questioned me it was a simple question of trusting myself that I had the better answer. That is definitely not what trust is about.

Actually, I would say that to trust yourself is somewhat the opposite of holding onto a lot of beliefs about how things generally are. To trust yourself is to walk through the world with ease without having a need to hold onto that many beliefs. On the surface it might seem that the more beliefs I have about myself and the world the better and the more rigid belief structure the better. I mean, it surely creates a feeling of security. Something to point at and turn to when the world does not turn out the way we want to. Certain religions have plenty of rigid beliefs about how things should be, what to do and what not to do, eat and so on. In reality these beliefs are just a way to view the world. And viewing the world through some of these religious beliefs definitely creates a lot of unnecessary suffering.

Back on point, what does it really mean to trust yourself? Actually I would like to say “trust” instead of “trust yourself”, because the second one relates to trust in certain beliefs or concepts you have about yourself. To cultivate a general sense of trust means to trust in that the universe will give you whatever you ask of it. Anthony Robbins says that our brains are like target-missiles, whatever we deep down desire – our brains will find a way for us to get there.

Every thought we have in our minds is an intention. By thinking we create our own reality by intention after intention. By simply pointing our thought towards what we want will eventually give us exactly what we ask for. The key is to ask intelligently, specifically and with clarity. For example, if you have decided to step up and take care of your health you have probably started to work out regularly. That is not enough. You have to consciously ask for good health by thinking about good health. You can work out as much as you want, but if you keep telling yourself “I am fat it sucks” you will never improve your health in the way you really want to.

Furthermore to trust in yourself is basically to trust in that the universe will provide whatever you ask of it. But is it that simple? You ask and you receive? No, not really. You either have to use courage to step outside your comfort zone and get what you want or you have to get out of your own way. Most of the time, what we really want is right in front of us.

The thing is that we have certain habits that keeps us living in the way we have always lived in. Some of them are so strong that even if what we want is right in front of us we do what we have always done and then complain that we do not get what we want. Human beings in a nutshell. The other thing is to use willpower and courage to do something different and get different results. If you do what you have always done you get what you have always got. Change the way you do things and get out of your own way.

Notice when you ask something from reality how it will either appear in front of you in some way , or that challenges will start to show up that will make it possible for you to get what you want. The further away from your current reality something is the more challenges you will have to master to get it or the more you have to get out of your own way in order to realize that what you want is right in front of your face.

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